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How to Keep Marriage Strong After Kids: 20 Insightful Tips

Parenting is hard and makes it difficult to stay connected with your spouse. I surveyed over 300 married couples and found that only 53% prioritize their marriage.


Those who do prioritize their marriage report feeling happier and more secure in their relationship. If this is true, why aren’t more couples prioritizing their marriages? The answer is simple: life gets in the way. Here are 20 tips on how to keep marriage strong after kids!


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Table of Contents:

Why is marriage so hard after baby?

How do I maintain my relationship with my husband after having a baby?

What percentage of couples stay together after having a baby?

How to keep marriage strong after baby

Feeling disconnected from husband after baby

Final thoughts: how to keep marriage strong after kids


Why is marriage so hard after baby?


Babies (and kids for that matter!) are a lot of work! They require your absolute full attention most of the time. You can easily get caught up in the endless tasks that are required for a baby. You forget to take care of yourself and your marriage.


Things change after having a baby. You and your husband used to be able to go out for lunch or go on a day trip to a nearby town. But all of that changes after a baby. It becomes immensely harder to do the things you used to do. It can feel like your marriage changes overnight. This change can be very tough on a marriage.


I share some of our experiences in the Final Thoughts section below.


How do I maintain my relationship with my husband after having a baby?


Patience and dedication are required to keep a relationship strong after having a baby.


You'll find detailed tips below so you can get started on keeping your marriage strong after baby.



What percentage of couples stay together after having a baby?


A study done by The Denver Post found that 90% of couples experience a decline in marital bliss after they have their first baby. An article by Good to Know cites that "a fifth of parents break-up in the year after having a baby".


But don't let these numbers scare you. Use them as reassurance that you're not alone. Start making changes now to improve and restore your marriage.


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How to keep marriage strong after baby


Below are the things we've done to strengthen our marriage. We've come to realize how incredibly important they are for any marriage after kids.


How to reconnect with your partner after having a baby


1. Look out for each other